Category Archives: Care Givers

Breast Feeding Timing is not Everything

For all those mothers who have heard all the talk about looking at the timing of feeding your baby – even during breastfeeding moments, well, the truth is out …. you will go insane.

The truth of watching the clock and figuring out the timing of when to breastfeed is one of the fastest way to put yourself in an asylum. Imagine getting up every two hours just to check the time and then even if you aren’t suppose to get up at that time, your own bioclock will wake you to just check on the time.

Here’s advice for those breastfeeding – throw away all those timing pieces you have in the house. The baby doesn’t need to know the time and neither do you. That’s what the principle of breastfeeding-on-demand is for! When the baby is hungry – feed. When the baby is suppose to breastfeed – feed! Don’t start keeping checks on the time or whatever else distracts you from the big and only objective – that is to keep the baby fed and eating whenever he/she wants! Good luck on the feeds – without the time guards please.

While you are feeding your baby, remember to feed yourself because you would need as much nourishment as your child. Worry not about putting weight because you can take care of that easily.

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Coping With Behaviroal Change for Caregivers

Based on the number of visitors reading my Post on Behavioral Changes it seems to me that this is one area where people are keen to know more. I can understand that because I fumbled through the process all because I did not fully understand what I was contending with.

It was quite natural to treat your spouse after a stroke and had been discharged from the hospital just like before! She looked physically fine except for the spasticity on the affected limbs. However slowly it dawned on me that a stroke survivor is different from a physically impaired person in the sense that a stroke survivor suffers from brain damage!

Any damage to the brain however small still causes a lot of dysfunction in terms of the thinking process, processing words and understanding. Initially my wife told me things that she didn’t mean to say! For example she wanted bread but what came out from her mouth was noodles! When I brought her noodles she said she told me to get bread! I was flabbergasted by such things and initially get rather stressed out because of the frequent out-burst of anger from her apart from doing double work.

I did not understand this aspect of brain damaged and we had quite a few tiffs in the initial stage. As I read more and understood what was happening, I began to have compassion and understand her frustrations too! She could not help it either! The caregiver, as the person with a good brain intact is expected to empathize with the stroke survivor and with understanding comes the ability to handle and brush-off ‘unfair accusations’ and not allowing yourself to get angry, thus making caregiving less stressful and more meaningful.

I hope that sharing our experience in this area of ‘Behavioral Change’ can help other family members and caregivers to sail through the recovery process with less stress and better understanding, hence compassion for the stroke survivor. As you see the slow improvements, that is the reward for all caregivers and make all the aches and pains worthwhile.

In the days ahead, I will put up posts on this issue with personal experience and less of a technical treatise on the subject and hope that others who are going through similar experience can benefit from the sharing. Please leave your comments, positive or otherwise, so that we can learn together and enjoy mutual benefits. Thank-you!

Care-Givers Need Help Too

There are people who are blessed with good health. Yet others are blessed with great families. There will always come a time, when we need to have our families with us.

Caring for an aged mother is not easy task. But if you add to that, an ailing, aged mother; then the load becomes heavy indeed. Care-givers are under a lot of stress everyday. The worse thing about their kind of stress, is that they cannot simply “leave the office” and get away from it all. Even when they go on vacation, they worry. Unless you are a care-giver yourself, it is going to be really hard for you to understand the depth of emotions that care-givers go through. But one of the most trying times of all, is the time when you need to decide to put your ailing, aged parent into a care home.

Many people cannot even bear the thought of doing that. But when the manpower required, the equipment and the level of expertise and intensity of the nursing become too much for the family, care homes are actually a better option. They have the trained professionals, the right environment and most importantly, the required manpower to provide constant care.

This website: provides a lot of information to help care-givers. There is a section to help you if you decide to to take care of your aged parent at home. And if you so decide that you need the expertise of a care home, you can read up on residential care there.

In the past, we rely on friends and well-meaning advise from relatives. But with the wealth of resources available to us, care-givers can now tap into the Internet and get more information that ever before. Not only that, information now comes from experts and authoritative sources rather than blindly follow old wives’ tales.

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